This article is not particular to the legal will, rather it is peculiar to the determination you might want to lose when faced with overwhelming challenges, those challenges that tend to test the faith and persistence of individuals. I might not have much experience about life but I know this, it is characterised by ups and downs. It is not always a bed of rose. The certain thing is that when life turns into “a bed of rocks”, it can transform into a bed of roses yet again, the price for this is patience, perseverance and most importantly, the will and determination. The wills you might want to lose…
THE WILL TO LIVE
“Joy is a final year student in engineering and is set to become the first engineer from his village. To celebrate this feat, his father requested him to ask his director for the convocation date so the villagers might come and honour him, but the director said Joy would not graduate that year because he is yet to complete and refused all pleas to grant him more time to complete this project. Well, Joy took the rather easy way out and committed suicide, leaving behind all what he stood for and all that matter to him, including his father” ( From Bollywood’s 3 Idiots).
I will like to make an hypothesis that an average person tend to get tired of life as one does a nagging child in the light of any challenge. Some people would rather just die than man up and face these problems. Even though suicide is against ethics and morals, some people still do it and miss out on the chance to make things right.
Most challenge confronting man is usually caused by man and can be set right by man himself. This won’t happen if he doesn’t man up and forge ahead in a bid to fix this anomaly. Life is so problematic that when problems come, it always tends to make us lose our will to live.
Joy Lobo of 3 idiots would not have died if he had been patient for a little more time, his project would have been completed if he had preserved, and he would have been the son he wanted to be if he hadn’t lost his will to live. But, that’s what life does; it keeps trying to steal this important will to live that only the strong can deny it the opportunity of doing so.
THE WILL TO FIGHT
“ Chief Agblowomeeri (one who collects from those who don’t have) is a wealthy man in the city of Olowolayemo (the society knows only the rich). He has set his eyes on a piece of land close to the commercial centre of the city. It happens that this piece of land belong to a poor artisan who refused to sell it irrespective of the amount he was offered. Now, chief Agbalowomeeri is one who wouldn’t take no for an answer an always take whatever he deem fit for himself. The artisan left with no option when the chief’s pressure to forcefully take the land reach an alarming level took the case to court but alas, the land was declared as the chief’s but the corrupt judge out of “pity” advised him to collect whatever sum the chief is ready to give him or lose the land totally without any compensation, either way the land now belongs to the chief. The artisan left with no capacity or means to continue his fight eventually lost his will to fight for his property and collected a meagre sum he wouldn’t have collected if he hadn’t settled for court. The society is afterall for the rich.”
There is a saying that “when the going gets tough, the tough gets going”. This is true to some extent, however there is a difference in how strong we are to one another. People have different ways of dealing with their problems or adapting to changes, while some adapt so great to these changes and fight so ferociously to set things back to how they were, others do not or lack the will to. Others along the way loses the will they have built up over time and just stop fighting and accept things as they are. Everybody has an innate fighting spirit, what matters is how to amass the powers of this weaponry and use it in the war against life when its problems loom.
Life can be so cruel and hostile that you even lose this fighting will. It is common to see people lamenting their fates because they are deprived of something that could have been useful, that they could have fought with. The artisan lacked money and lost his fight against social injustice. How sad!
THE WILL TO LOVE
Lena has always have problems with men. They all seem to be the same- In one moment promise her all she could ever wish for but vanish in the next moment without actually fulfilling any of their promises. She has promised herself not to have any sort of civil or romantical entanglement with any man she ever meets again until one came. He seemed so perfect and gentlemanly that all the suppressed feelings came rushing back in and she thought she could give him a chance. She couldn’t be any more wrong! All seem perfect until she paid an unexpected visit and got to know that the man has a secret- he has a wife and children already. Lena has turned cold to men after this unfortunate development. She can’t afford to be wrong again, she has had enough.”
Many people after coping for a long time with disappointments and heartaches lose all their capacity to love. It is not uncommon to see a gentleman or a lady that swear heaven and earth not to have any sort of romantical relationship because they have nothing to show for their previous relationships. They really can’t be blamed, life can be so cruel, and people can be so cruel. Though, some may forge ahead courageously until their travails are over but others may not. Some may even seek revenge against the class of gender they think wrong them and embark on a destructive mission to break as many hearts as they can and disappoint as many people as they may.
The truth is people who set on this destructive part do not always get the satisfaction they hope for and desire and they continue to have regrets all over their lives and keep getting stuck in the past.
It takes a strong man or woman to defy all odds and live a long full life. They cling to hope and never lose their will. The will is life itself.